How to be a good wife..

 it's up to you and your husband to determine theneeds of your relationship and how each partner can do their part to fulfill those needs--and here are some special guidelines to start off. However, remember that a marriage is a partnership, so your husband needs to make an effort too!

Janeth Manongi and her Husband Mr, Raymond Mkandawile 

Be secure in yourself.

 Putting yourself down in front of him is another way of insulting his taste in women. If he is with you, it's because he wants to be. He will find you beautiful even if you don't feel like it, if you act the part. Remember that attitude and willingness are large parts of being sexy. Poor self-esteem and a "void" in your life is terrible for marriage. Make sure you still have a fun and interesting life. If your husband left tomorrow, would you still have girlfriends you see at least once a month, hobby clubs you go to, sports you play? If not, your husband will always be working to fill a void he cannot fill,

Manage stress. Men and women deal with stress all day and every day. Do what you can to help each other deal with the stress of every day life. Making sure that you are able to cope with your own stresses will take pressure off of your marriage.

Give what he needs.

 If he needs sex, give sex to him in a way he wants it. If he needs his space, give him space. If he needs time to be with you, give him your time. If he needs you to listen, listen to every word he speaks including his unspoken words. If he needs respect, give him your respect. The key is to learn about your husband's needs. Ask him what his needs are. Then, give without condition. You give him because you love him and he deserves to be loved by you.


Keep your sex life interesting.

 Be sure to discussyour sex life with him. Also, don't be afraid to discuss anything you might be interested in. Physical intimacy is as important to a marriage as emotional intimacy. Nurture them both. Skin contact is our largest sensual organ

Accept him.

 Only by accepting him as he is, do you have such deep respect and gratitude for him that you would never want him to change in any way for you. He has so much to offer you if only you give him the space to be himself. He is a growing individual, just like you are. Help him grow in the direction that he chooses, and give him the chance to help you.